In other words, work out the consequences of your loved one saying no and do not vary from them for any reason. These are also called ultimatums. Get a commitment from each member of your team. Usually years of manipulation have occurred and more often than not, an addict will call your bluff. Don’t bluff!!!! Follow through with the bottom lines for you loved one’s sake. Believe it or not, they are counting on you to stay strong. Doing so will help guide them in the right direction. If you need help with this, please call us.