The addicted person will try very hard to manipulate you or whoever they think is the weakest. Don’t let yourself get dragged down to the addicted person’s level. Think of the addicted person as a drowning victim. You cannot jump in the water to save them. You have to keep your feet on dry ground, throw them a lifeline and get them to grab it. They have to know you mean business. Don’t ever weaken on your demand that the person’s next move is arriving at the rehab you have chosen.